Our apartment is ready…

But we are not.

Still so much to do before we can actually move in to the new place. I don’t look forward to this at all.

So this weekend, I will be purging a whole crapload of stuff. Hopefully all I’ll have left are clothes that fit me, furniture, books, music, and all my parents’ stuff that I chose to keep. My goal is to be ready to move by this time next week.

At least we don’t have a real deadline to be out of Mom’s house. The sooner, the better.

So why am I not excited about this move?

Maybe it’s because it means we’re one step closer to selling Mom’s house; or the fact that the new place is across the street from my niece’s high school; or that I’m still living with my two oldest sons more than two years after Mom died; or that I had no say in the matter because it was a done deal before the subject of selling Mom’s house came up.

Though I would have probably chosen the location of the new place myself, I hate being dictated to, i.e., you’re moving here whether you like it or not.

I have to get out of here for a while. I need a vacation in the worst way.

Kinda hard to do without money that’s not earmarked for other things (rent, utilities, food, etc.)



I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

What do you mean….

Hello Kitty isn’t a cat?

According to Sanrio, the company who holds the trademark on the beloved cultural icon, Hello Kitty is a cartoon character. She has never been depicted as a four legged creature (i.e. walking on all fours). She even had a pet cat (huh?).

Okay, Sanrio can say whatever it wants about their character, but to me, she walks like a human and looks like a cat. Case closed, right?

Hello Kitty is celebrating her 40th anniversary this year. My question is, if Hello Kitty was never a cat, why did it take 40 years to say so?

Something is rotten in the state of Denmark if you ask me.

Just go on ahead and shatter all my childhood beliefs, Sanrio, why don’t you? To me, she’ll always be a cat.

This apparently is a big deal, as it’s being discussed on social media and TV news broadcasts (slow news day, huh?).


I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

Get over yourself…

You put your pants/pantyhose on one leg at a time…

Just like everyone else.

You work hard to achieve your goals. Don’t let your goals define you, i.e. “I’m (insert name here) and I’m a/an (insert what your profession is here).” You are a human being first, then a dad, mom, brother, sister, friend, THEN whatever it is you do last.

I.E. “I’m Stephanie and I’m a sister, mother, friend, colleague. I just happen to work in the media in some capacity.”

I mean, I just killed a mosquito. That doesn’t make me a mosquito killer for all time, does it?

Some people just need to loosen up! Geez, have some fun would ya?

After all, it’s just life, right? 

I dated a man once that told me to “live in the moment”. I took heed of that advice. I’ve been doing it ever since. Some people don’t like that. I’m direct, somewhat blunt, and take no crap from anyone. I give people a chance, and it’s up to them to take advantage of it. I’ve probably lost potential friends because of it (hell, I know I have!), but it is what it is.

Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future.

So drop the ego BS, and get over yourself.


The road to Hell is paved with good intentions

I INTENDED to mow the grass today.

I INTENDED to get an early start.

I INTENDED to put my feet on the ground and apply at local places.

I INTENDED to not nap in the afternoon so I could sleep at night.


I’m going to Hell.

See you there.



I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~




It has saved me more times than any one person has. It’s my lifeline. My refuge. My salvation.

It has been there for me at all stages of my life. Especially now when my life is nothing but chaos.

Me + music = happy.

That is all.