My mind is just about made up re: who to vote for in November

I’ll know more after the Democrat’s dog and pony show this week. 

I already know I’m not voting for Trump. 

I probably won’t vote for Hillary either. 

I don’t like either of the choices before us. I feel neither of them are qualified or competent enough to be our next President. 

I’m done voting for the lesser of two evils. 

I’ve voted in every presidential election in which I was eligible to do so since 1984, the year I turned 20 years old. 

This time, I don’t know. 

There are no viable third party candidates to choose from. Writing in someone essentially throws your vote away, though it is tempting. 

I can no longer hold my nose and vote for the one who stinks less. 

We’ve got the racist, xenophobic, narcissistic, misogynistic billionaire


The shady, lying, covering up spouse of a former president whose party may have rigged her victory in the primaries.

Oh, who do I choose as the next leader of the free world >sarcasm<

I don’t even want to think about politics, elections, or candidates right now. 

Who’s right, who’s wrong? Who the fuck cares?

Neither of these candidates do, that’s for damn sure. They want us to be good little drones and vote.

I’m not a drone. I’m the Queen Bee, bitch! 

So put that in yer pipe and smoke it!

After all, they must be on something, right? 

I’m Stef this is where it’s @ !~

Political conventions could be hazardous to my sanity, let alone my health

The GOP convention ended yesterday. Thank God! 

Trump accepted the party’s nomination for president, and at one point during acceptance speech, he said, “I am your voice”.

No. No, Mr. Trump, you most certainly are NOT! You’re a misogynistic, xenophobic, homophobic, arsehole liar who thinks that just because it comes out of your mouth, then it must be fact. 

You want to build a wall on our border with Mexico, have at it. You pay for it, like, out of your own pockets. I mean, they ARE deep enough, right?

You want to keep out people whose countries are hotbeds for terrorism. Why? If your country was under siege by extremist terrorists, would you not try leave to make a better life for your family?

Oh, wait… you’re rich. That’ll NEVER happen to you! 

You also want to deny aid to NATO countries being attacked by…Russia?!

What is this, Cold War II? 

Then you have the audacity to suggest that if countries in that category want help from the US of A, they have to prove beneficial to us (you)?

Why don’t we fix what’s wrong here first. You want to do that, right? So what’s your plan to do just that? You probably have no earthly idea. That’s what advisors are for. 

I’m getting pissed off now. I better stop before I have a real stroke. 

Suffice it to say that I did a lot of yelling at my TV this week. Like it helps. I yelled at everyone from Melania, to Giuliani, to Trump lap dog Chris Christie, to Trump’s kids, to Mike Pence, to even Ted “non endorsement” Cruz. After all that, if I had to listen to his entire 76 minute speech, I may have really lost my mind. So I didn’t watch. I got the highlights later.

Next week, it’s the Democrats turn. That means more yelling at my TV. 

Better stock up on either popcorn…or a straight jacket and duct tape. 

What a circus this election has become!

God help us all.

I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

Four years on…

Saturday (7/9) was the 4th anniversary of my mother’s death. I still cannot believe she’s gone. 

And, I’m kinda glad she’s not here to see the insanity this country has become. She’d never believe that Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton are running for president. She’d never believe how screwed up the state of Oklahoma become. She might not believe that people are still being discriminated against in this day and age.

I still wish she was still here to give me advice. 

She would have been 87 this year. She didn’t make it to her 83rd (she died three weeks shy of her July 31st birthday). 

She and dad are in a much better place. I hope they’re looking down from heaven and not shaking their heads in disbelief. I can imagine Dad saying to Mom, “You got out just in time.”



I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

Please, just fucking STOP!

This week: two African American men killed by police in two different states for apparently no reason. 

Tonight (7/7/16): police were targeted at a rally in Dallas. Eleven shot, four dead (update: five officers have now died), the rest in critical condition or still in surgery. One of the alleged gunmen stated to police that he’s planted explosive devices in the downtown area. 

What the hell is happening here? Why are we powerless to stop it? Why are police targeting persons of color just going about their lives? 

Evil doesn’t drive out evil. Only love can do that. Violence never solved anything. As my dad was fond of saying, two wrongs don’t make a right.

Please, can we just stop, back up, and learn to love each other? Is that so flipping hard? 

In a society where even complying with an officer’s instructions can get you killed, can’t we just take everything on a case by case basis and not racially profile everyone because of a few bad people?

This hurts my heart. I have no words that can adequately express how angry and saddened I am by this recent turn of events. This is not the America I grew up in. Maybe I’m naïve, but we all have the right to live our lives as we see fit. Yes, there are bad people, evil people out there. Why use such a wide brush on everyone? What good has that ever done?

Please, for the love of the deity of your choice, please just stop killing each other. 


I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

Well, we should have expected this, so why are we so freakin surprised?

Yesterday, July 4th, Oklahoma City Thunder star Kevin Durant, who was a freer agent after this past season, decided take his skills to another team.

The team? The Golden State Warriors. The same team that eliminated Thunder in the semi finals after they blew a 3 games to 1 lead. So in essence, Durant jumped ship and went to the one team he couldn’t beat. 

If you can’t beat ’em, join ’em?

Durant has made no secret that wants to be on a championship team, and felt that the Warriors was the best fit for him. 

Personally, I think this is a stupid move on his part. Why? Because instead of being THE star of the team, he’ll be playing second banana to Steph Curry, Klay Thompson and Draymond “right in the Kiwis” Green. I hope that KD can handle that. 

And though I’m disappointed, I’m not really surprised by this move. Durant wants a ring, and he was willing to take a pay cut to go to the Warriors. 

Meanwhile, OKC has a young, hungry team. They’re ready to work toward getting into the playoffs next year. Unfortunately, we no longer have Serge Ibaka after he was traded to the Orlando Magic for three new guys. But the Thunder still has Russell Westbrook until next year. And, unless Sam Presti trades him, we should be all set. 

Since the announcement of Durant’s decision yesterday, it’s all anyone can talk about! People are even burning Durant’s jersey! Real mature, right? The folks in Cleveland did the same thing when LeBron James left the Cavaliers for Miami several years ago.  

It’s not the end of the world though. Durant had 8 incredible years here in OKC, and did a lot of great things for the city and the state of Oklahoma. People seem to have forgotten that part. It seems to me that we, as fans, pinned our championship hopes on one guy, and now he’s gone. 

There are still plenty of other guys on the team who need the fans support. I’m behind them 110%. I’m still going to Thunder Up. Still going to wear my Thunder gear. Still going to watch the team play. Nothing’s changed there. There will be new faces and familiar names. They’ll need our support. OKC has an awesome team. Let’s prove all the naysayers wrong and come out stronger than ever behind the Thunder. 

It’s the least we can do. 


Now if we can get that kind of support for our teachers, that would be icing on the cake. 


I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

Love wins: one year later

It’s been a year since the Supreme Court ruled that it was legal for same sex couples to marry in the United States.

It hasn’t been an easy year. The Pulse nightclub shooting 2 weeks ago has cast a huge shadow on this year’s Pride celebrations. The fighting over who could use which bathroom is still ongoing. But somehow, we as a people, be we gay or straight, have thrived.

True, some of our so called esteemed leaders are idiots, bigots, and transphobic, but that doesn’t mean we should lose hope. Indeed, we should work on getting ineffectual leaders out of office and voting in people who care more about their constituents than how much money they can make.

We need laws that protect everyone. Guns laws need to be updated, rewritten, and/or thrown out all together; we need our representatives to stand up for us, and not for the gun lobby. We need laws that don’t discriminate again a certain segment of society because no one cares enough to learn more about said segment.

And, as Lin-Manuel Miranda said, “Love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love.”

I’ll love who I want, and you love who you want. But don’t tell people they have to love, believe, or behave like you do. We’re all different and once we learn to accept that fact, then maybe the US will be even greater than it is now.



I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~