My annual Thanksgiving post

This year is coming to a close. I mean, where did it go?

Thanksgiving is tomorrow here in the States, and I am thankful for a few things. Such as:

My health. I only had one hospital stay this year up to this point (knock wood). I’m still battling with my liver, but I’m still here to bitch and moan about it, lol.

Talented, knowledgeable doctors and other medical personnel.

My family, though we have our differences.

A roof over my head, food on the table and clothes to wear that actually fit me!

My meds, as they keep me out of the hospital.

Free will. Free thought. Free to just be me.

Of course, there are people who won’t be able to share this holiday with their families due to death, distance or disagreements. Keep those folks in your prayers.

And last, but by no means least, to all the friends I’ve made over the years. You are from right here at home, in another state, and in other countries across the globe. My life is richer for having gotten to know all of you.

I hope you have a wonderful holiday. And for those of you for whom tomorrow is just Thursday, have a great day!


I’m Stef, and this is where it’s @ !~

Um, no. No you didn’t.

Someone reposted this picture on Facebook tonight, and I highly disagree:


Blaming all Muslims, all those who practice Islam for the actions of highly radicalized barbarians such as ISIS/ISIL and Al Qaeda, for the terrorism going on in the world, is like blaming all Christians for the actions of Westboro Baptist “Church”.

Who made you judge and jury? You aren’t God.

Why are people so willing to condemn a whole group of people they don’t know for the actions of bad segments of their population? Those who practice Islam the way it was meant to be practiced, and those who interpret it to fit some sort of violent agenda are two completely different things. I know people are smarter than that, so why fall into that trap called knee jerk reactionaryism? (Yes, I know that’s not a word).

Terrorism is the scourge we’re all dealing with, given Friday’s events in Paris. It’s been a problem since 9/11. It seems that it’s not being dealt with competently by our government. How many more Parises, how many more 9/11’s, how many more planes have to be shot out of the sky for the government to get it. Is war the answer? Perhaps it’s all these cretins understand.

I don’t have all the answers and neither does anyone else. So quit fear mongering and educate yourself. You might actually learn something. No religion is perfect– there are radicals with their own agendas. These are the people we needed to protect ourselves from. Let the rest live their lives in peace, as they’re probably just as upset about this as you are.

I know ilk probably get some kind of crap from people about this. Just remember, this is MY opinion. Your actual mileage may vary.



In Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

My .02 (take it any way you want)

You know, if I believed the same way other Christians did, I probably wouldn’t be able to live with myself. Persecute others for being different (gay, straight, black, white, brown, Jewish, Muslim, etc.)? Nope, couldn’t do it. Raise a fuss if a business didn’t want to offend people of other faiths? Couldn’t do that either. Stereotype people by race, ethnicity, gender identification… in short, punishing the many for the crimes of a few? Who am I to judge?

I’ve had my struggles with some of these things in my life, and after some serious soul searching, I decided to let people be who they are without judgement, because that isn’t my job. The God I worship, I believe, is non judgemental. He created everyone equally. And God doesn’t make mistakes.

I don’t like having other people shoving their brand of faith down my throat and telling me if I don’t believe as they do, I’m going to hell. God gave me a mind and free will. I can make those decisions for myself, thank you. I’ll just let you be.

I’m just trying to get through this thing called life, ya know?


I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~

It’s just a red cup

Here we go again.

Some whackadoodle preacher is up in arms over the red cup that Starbucks is offering this year, saying that the coffee chain hates Christmas, it’s non Christian, and had declared a war on Christmas.

His remarks went viral, and now so called Christians are calling for a boycott. Others are going to Starbucks anyway and asking that the barrista write Merry Christmas on their cups instead of their name.

This is going to be the year that is remembered as the year of being offended. If people are offended by what a paper coffee cup doesn’t say, what does that tell you about what kind of person they are?

It’s just a red cup, people! I liked the explanation that Starbucks gave for the design: that it was all inclusive. Since when did Christians corner the market on snow flakes and evergreen trees?

Maybe these people should get back into church, attend bible study and find out the real truth.

And for the price of a cup of joe from Starbucks, a disadvantaged family could have a place to sleep and warm food in their bellies this Christmas.

Priorities. Get them straight.


I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ ~!


I apparently offended people last night on Twitter for making an observation in regards to how old is too old to keep breastfeeding.

Personally, I do not have a problem with women who breastfeed. I breastfed my kids, briefly, 30 plus years ago. All I said was that I thought that 18 months was too long. I never said anything to the mother to make her feel bad about what she was doing. I figure that’s her business.

I got slammed by young women for being “a bully” for having an opinion about it. Every time I tried to defend myself, I got more and more angry tweets from these women.

Okay, I get it. But there is a big difference between “education”, which these women insisted they were doing, and harassment, which I felt was actually happening.

Good forbid I actually have an opinion on something!

I made a simple observation. My mistake was posting it on social media. I had no idea how militant some of these women are about this subject. It reminds me of the hateful messages that some heavy metal fans put out if you don’t like their favorite band like they do.

If just one of these women were nice about it, perhaps if they said, hey Stef, I want to let you know things have changed in 33 years, and this is the recommended length of time a mom should breastfeed now, I might have taken it under advisement. But to bully me because I don’t think the same as as they do is going about it the wrong way. My father used to say that you get more flies with honey than vinegar. A little niceness goes a long way.

Now, what I really think– if you wish to, and there’s nothing physically preventing you from doing so (some women just can’t, even though they want to), then go for it for the recommended timeframe your child’s physician suggests. Don’t give those who choose not to a hard time about not doing so. That’s a personal decision that only the mom in question should make.

And if someone like me, who is long finished with having children, has a question or makes an observation you don’t agree with…educate, don’t bully.

Just my 2 cents. Maybe I’m just an old fart, but I’m not ignorant. I am open to learning about something I may not have all the pieces of the puzzle to.

What do you readers think?


Life is getting too weird

Have you watched the news lately? It seems like life is just getting stranger and stranger as the days go by. If you read anything on social media, it seems like everybody has an opinion about something.

And, I’d say about 99% of the time, the people who post this stuff are really uninformed or they just don’t care about being right; they just want to get their opinion out there. There are people talking about the end times, global warming, just plain old fear mongering- all to get people all worked up into a lather about the presidential elections, and who’s going to be the best person for the job, and yada yada yada, etc., your mileage may vary. Frankly, I’m quite tired of it.

So, those of you who are spreading all this crap around that you don’t know anything about, please knock it the hell off. All you’re accomplishing is just hearing yourself talk. Believe it or not, your opinion is not the end all, be all of everything on social media so please shut up and let the people who do know what they’re talking about say something.

What’s that phrase, those people who think they know everything annoy those of us who really do. If you don’t know what the hell you’re talking about, please do us all a favor and keep your trap shut. Because, nobody is really interested in your opinion, especially if your opinion is based on lies, innuendo, and just plain made up stuff.

It’s weird, that people will believe a million lies and not bat an eye, but if you tell the truth, God forbid, everyone looks at you like you’re psycho.

Just my 2 cents mind you. Your actual mileage may vary.


So flippin tired…

And can’t effin sleep!

I’m seriously going to talk to my doctor about possibly getting some sort of sleep aid to help lull my overactive brain to shut down long enough to let me sleep all friggin night. This is getting ridiculous, this not sleeping jazz. I’ve tried everything I can think of that isn’t a pain reliever plus a sleep aid or a sketchy OTC drug. Tea, hot milk (yuk!), hot bath, meditation, not using my phone or tablet after I retire for the evening… tried all that shit. Nada, nyet, zip, zero, zilch. Nope, nothing but wide eyes and a brain that runs a million miles an hour at the worst possible times.

I’ve run out of options, and it’s wearing me out. During the day, I’m walking around like a zombie. At night, my brain is the Energizer™ Bunny.

I mean, I’ve always been a night owl, but this is too much! I’m ready to scream! (oops, too late)



I’m Stef and this is where it’s @ !~